Justin and Lily at Deb’s House in San Antonio
March 2006

Someone posted this quote on Justin’s MySpace blog:

Looking up at the stars, I know quite well
That, for all they care, I can go to hell,
But on earth indifference is the least
We have to dread from man or beast.

How should we like it were stars to burn
With a passion for us we could not return?
If equal affection cannot be,
Let the more loving one be me.

-W.H. Auden

I like this thought.  For some reason, the idea that “the one who loves more is the loser” is the thought that is perpetuated in our society.  “Nice guys finish last.” “The person who loves more in the relationship is the one without the power.” “Guard your feelings so you don’t get hurt.”  These are the things we are told over and over, and we assimilate these ideas without even thinking about them because they are presented to us at such a young age and so repetitively.

I didn’t even think about reversing the accepted norm until I read this quote on Justy’s blog.  It’s such a better way to think!  It’s such a better philosophy to base your actions and your life upon.

“If equal affection cannot be, Let the more loving one be me.”  That is the idea that I am going to perpetuate. 🙂